Her love language would be words of affirmation, maybe not number one but probably number 2. I think this is what she is looking for, I have learnt about her more over these months. I guess the question becomes, when someone else was/is involved, how much do I engage her LL's. Especially when I haven't seen any remorse for the whole period of this colleagues involvement.
It was not a complaint of hers, the main complaint was probably lack of time together. Unfortunately as I was building a house for us, and working full time, I got a balance wrong mainly because time was tight for us to move in. That and being physically and mentally exhausted. We did do things as a family but not enough just the 2 of us, it's not that I didn't want to, even friends said to W to organize a weekend away and they would look after the kids. Told her I was exhausted and to take me away. Something she didn't do, I think I was the one that needed to organize it. I have learnt about myself and acts of service is up there for me so if she had of planned something, it would have meant a lot to me. I have, however, sacrificed things for financial reasons that would have done me good.
