SH,

I think you have done great in the time you are here. You have also made many friends and have helped a lot of people.

I suggest that maybe you need to take some time for YOU.PPosting on others threads is often therapeutic as we can formulate our thinking without being attached. But at times being here can actually be counter productive. It can hold you back or bring you down, often without realising it.

Make the decision to do what you need to do for YOU. You realise you have lost your direction a little. Decide now what direction you want to take. Make long, medium and short term goals for yourself.Include some fun.

Realise you can take as long as you need.TThere is no rush.

Come back here when suits you, be that in a few hours or weeks. But do come back.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together