Awkward situation

[Tate]

The sister situation is tough. My reason is I feel my sister should know, but it will leave mass destruction in its wake. I agree that I should put my sister first in this situation, but I'm not clear as to whether that means telling her or not intervening.

The situation with my wife travelling to visit relatives has a long history...One of the complaints I've had with my wife is that she always made time for everyone but me. She would travel out of town so often with the kids that I just couldn't go every time if I wanted to get anything done around the house. We literally always have bags in our dining room from her last trip...she usually empties them only to pack for the next trip. Yet, she could never have the time to relax with me or go out on a date. I called her out on this time and time again but she always had some excuse. Now, I know she was purposely excluding me from her life she was building on her own. Yesterday, she told me that she is not comfortable with me around on trips. Several months ago, we dropped the kids off at Sunday school and had half an hour before church. She proceeded to chew me out for smothering her by attending church with her and accompanying her on trips out of town. It really caught me off guard. The DB coach suggested I back off a bit, so I have.

The difficulty I have now with our relationship is that I don't know if I should be doing 180s, GAL, or going dark. Going dark and GAL might snap her back to reality a bit when she realizes how much she still interacts with me and likes having me around. It almost seems like that should be the start followed by 180s once she's on boardm with rebuilding our relationship.