What a refreshing post. When the daily desire to fulfill hubby's needs/desires are met with his desire to please/take care of you, the bonding within that little circle of two strengthens so much!!
1-2 week goals 1. H will hold my hand one more time 2. H will give me more kisses, coming closer to my mouth 3. H will begin to see me as sparkly again (his old pet name for me-Sparkles)
I just found a nice quote of yours on Nitaf's thread, and it hits the spot for me right now.
Quote: Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear.
It's been said many times on this BB. That's because it's wise advice.
My H said he would never love me again, never feel anything but cold for me. Now he has changed his tune.
Don't make a big deal out of it, it will only create friction later when he has to change his mind and make it 'your' (shared) computer. The more you point out as inconsistent, the more work he has to do to save face later.
My H is making a big deal of how inappropriate it would be for him to join D and self in my country of origin for some weeks this summer. Says all my friends would get the wrong idea, speculating about us getting back togther. But he sees no problem in coming to stay here almost every other weekend??? I have said nothing except, it's your decision.
(I made the offer because -
a) he would get to spend time with D b) he loves the country c) I hoped he would see it as an olive branch, and we could spend some nice time together
The original offer was made totally spontaneously and on the spur of the moment, I just felt a wave of love for H )
I wonder if you would cast your eye over my thread and tell me what you think? I seem to have hit some bumps in the road just lately.
Thanks!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Sparkles - What a wonderful nickname! You sure seem to radiate a joy and zest for life here on the BB - it's an awesome goal to try and be that way around your H! Hugs, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
You guys are all so sweet. How nice to hear my nickname, even if from people I will probably never meet.
It makes me smile and remember the good days with H. And the good days were oh-so-good.
I just thought I would post more positives. I have come to care so much about so many people on this board. I try to read through their sitchs, but my work is suffering. Had to cut down for a few days and actually DO something here.
In the meantime, I see that many are DOWN.
Well, I am up and I hope some of this may rub off on some of you. Mercury - pooh! - I can fight you with my super sonic laser gun - I push off your rays and your pull has no effect on me!!!
I'm a Saturn girl, and we all know what that means. I can run rings around Mercury BS trying to bring us down. So, I'm hereby ringing all the people that are down and protecting them from the pull that is bringing their PMA down. I am here to say "IF AN IDIOT LIKE ME CAN DO IT, SO CAN YOU!!!" THERE! There is your mental fence to protect you all from the BS that says you can't or you don't want to or you will fail.
H has been emailing me all day. For those of you who watch South Park on tv, last night was a new episode where the kids of South Park "got served." (A spoof on a dance movie where "ganstas" go around trying to out dance each other rather than use guns. Getting served is being outdanced.)
So, H text'd me "Bam bam ba-diddle spin spin spin lunge backflip spin hair flick splits. You just got served."
I laughed so hard because the image of H dancing around like a break dancer is preposterous. He's a large man, flexible from karate, but no break dancer. We've been "serving" each other all day long. He has been sending me pics of things around his office with voice memos that sound like he is making some sort of lame attempt at rapping. It's so much fun to be goofing around with him again. And it's been going on every 20-30 minutes all day (five hours) so far.
Ha ha ha. Jokes on him. Who doesn't love who? What a silly man. How could he think he has no feelings for me. DUH!
Tell me, when is he going to wake up?
OK, I am not saying I don't still have work to do, but I am trying very hard to stay up and have high PMA. I'm doing this for all you guys, so come on, join me! I don't want to be the only one. El YAY! Let's go get 'em! YAY!
As He-man used to say "I have the power!"
On another note, H was making plans for our July trip to Canada. (or as he says, Canadia-LOL) He's going to be learning how to make Japanese swords, a life long ambition, and has asked me to join him for the week. He has found a cute little B&B with an old pub attached that serves home made beer (H's favorite) and authentic German food (another fav of H's). He says everything is walking distance so we can see the quaint little town at night. He sounds so excited to be going, but also to be having my company.
Oh, and the other day, when he asked if I wanted to take off Friday, but wouldn't "invite me." Wouldn't tell me if he wanted me to stay home with him or not. Well, last night he finally said, "You want to be invited, I realize that. I like spending time with you and I would like it if you would go."
I have to let go of that garbage! If he asks, it's his way of saying he wants to be with me. I just wish he didn't act like it would kill him to admit he likes my company.
