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RSG, it sounds like your doing great with your son, and he sees the lighthouse light your putting out, and knows where home is.

As for WW, no non-essential contact doesn't need to be a major boundary, it just needs to be. Tell your WW that your not interested in her being part of the family as long as she is having an A, and you will update her with goings on when you deem appropriate.

It may cause her to decide to give you fewer updates, but that's a consequence you may have to live with for the time being, you can always work out another deal if D happens. But for now, she is M to you, and an A is a deal breaker.