I see the drama continues. I would change all of my user ids and passwords as soon as possible? Why? Because your xh may very well write them down and the Russian tart will find and use them herself.
Gosh, living in the attic reminds me of a book title called "Flowers in the Attic". In this case, it's not flowers up there but "Bowls of Oatmeal in the Attic".
Well, it won't be long now before the Russian tart blows her cork.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You've just got the most amazing attitude about things. You're just the bomb, my friend.
And job, I literally busted out laughing at Flowers in the Attic. Thanks for the Friday snicker!
Yeah, RL, password changes are good anyway. I subscribe to an app called Last Pass. I pay for the premium one, but the basic app is free. It has a great password generator, and with one master password, it keeps the vault of passwords for you. The premium allows for portability, which I need for a variety of reasons. It's been a godsend. Many of my banks and credit cards require generating new passwords every 90 days, and this is an easy way to capture them. I've got a really short memory for weird crap like that, and it keeps me from writing down that stuff (not safe at all).
Love your updates on the alt. Love you!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Good grief! Now that RT is here, not only will she continue to pressure XH into marrying her, she will want him to buy her a big house so the entire extended family can join them from Moscow! Yikes!
I agree that your passwords need to change. I'm sure that is good advice for all of us from a security perspective. The app that was mentioned sounds helpful.
Thank you so much for checking in. I love that you are keeping your sense of humor
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Thanks for checking in with me, everyone. You are all so kind. I feel like you guys carried me thru the darkest days of my life into the sunlight. And now are such dear friends. Hi Christy, Job, Betsey, Ginger, Rick and Ellie! So nice to hear from you all!
Job "Oatmeal in the Attic" made me crack up! OMG! Very very appropriate, actually right? LOL Thanks Betsey for the info about Last Pass, it sounds perfect for me!
So ex and RT dropped by today. Ex wanted to tell S30 that they had set their wedding date, July 6th, and to see if S30 is willing to be their witness. He'd asked last week, but at that time S30 said he would have to think about it. S30 says that they are both nuts but he will be the witness if his dad wants him.
Ex said he did not plan to let S43 know about the wedding, nor his mom or the rest of his family either. I stupidly told ex that his family will be hurt if he does not even let them know of the impending nuptials, then changed my mind and said it is none of my business, do what ever he wants. He looked at me sort of puzzled, and said something like, but it's a second marriage, so he sees no reason to inform anyone, AND asked if I ever got married again, if I would tell my family. What??? I sure would, I would let everyone know. I think any normal person would have a party and invite all their friends and relatives. Maybe I'm wrong....
The visit was too bizarre. Sort of like a bad play. Ex and RT both kept walking in and out of the living room, fixing the cups of tea I'd made them (too hot, too cold, needs more milk, needs more sugar), and whispering to me.
Ex said his mom hates RT. RT whispered that she hates ex's mother. Ex whispered that they are going on a honeymoon to try to find a place to live down south somewhere where it's cheaper than Long Island. RT said that ex wants to live here on Long Island. I'm not sure what the true story is, and really don't care, but if I got a vote it would be for for far away!
RT also told me that ex does NOT want to marry her, and that he wants to just live as friends, but he is marrying her so she can get a green card so she can stay in this country and get a job. I can't believe he told her that. How romantic.
Then they both came in and sat down, and ex said that RT is going to bone up on her English so she can get a job as an accountant, and is going to take an accounting class online, but RT said she thinks the only kind of job she can get would be as a cleaning lady. Not sure she'll be able to support him on a cleaning lady's salary, but I'm sure ex will encourage her to try.
It was SO friggin strange. It was hard not to burst out laughing. And very very hard to refrain from telling her that her "Russian diamond" wedding ring is set with man made stones. I will be very grateful if they find a nice inexpensive place to live somewhere far far away.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Oh my goodness, I can imagine all of this dramatised....what a bizarre situation it is!! All credit to you to have got yourself to the good place you're at and can take it all in your stride.
I was XH's second W (he was my first M) and we had a nice little party with 35 or so close friends and family it was lovely. It has crossed my mind what sort of do they might have if it is third time around for him and whether people would want to make the transatlantic troop for it...
As you say, a little place far away would be a good outcome......goodness knows how all of this will play out.
Do take care and thanks for sharing the story xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
So, they'll marry on July 6th and probably will be separated/divorced within 12 months. I can't see this one lasting. They can't agree on anything. I have to ask questions because I'm curious as h@ck. What does the Russian tart look like? Did they act like lovey dovey people crushing on each other?
My hat's off to you...I couldn't have had them in my home. I guess they needed a break from the attic to get some fresh air and discovered their brains have been cooked during the time up there. LOL!
The drama continues and it's going to get very interesting in the months ahead.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I can't believe you let them into your home, but I guess it was worth the free entertainment? Sounds like one of those wacky old-fashioned plays, or a Marx Brothers film.
