Stay dark! IMO, this means its working. It means she's conflicted. Stay dark and work on you! Detach, 180 and GAL. Go hard and be genuine in the changes you make.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing