Divorced and so grateful

[RosaLinda]

Thanks for checking in with me, everyone. You are all so kind. I feel like you guys carried me thru the darkest days of my life into the sunlight. And now are such dear friends. Hi Christy, Job, Betsey, Ginger, Rick and Ellie! So nice to hear from you all!

Job "Oatmeal in the Attic" made me crack up! OMG! Very very appropriate, actually right? LOL Thanks Betsey for the info about Last Pass, it sounds perfect for me!

So ex and RT dropped by today. Ex wanted to tell S30 that they had set their wedding date, July 6th, and to see if S30 is willing to be their witness. He'd asked last week, but at that time S30 said he would have to think about it. S30 says that they are both nuts but he will be the witness if his dad wants him.

Ex said he did not plan to let S43 know about the wedding, nor his mom or the rest of his family either. I stupidly told ex that his family will be hurt if he does not even let them know of the impending nuptials, then changed my mind and said it is none of my business, do what ever he wants. He looked at me sort of puzzled, and said something like, but it's a second marriage, so he sees no reason to inform anyone, AND asked if I ever got married again, if I would tell my family. What??? I sure would, I would let everyone know. I think any normal person would have a party and invite all their friends and relatives. Maybe I'm wrong....

The visit was too bizarre. Sort of like a bad play. Ex and RT both kept walking in and out of the living room, fixing the cups of tea I'd made them (too hot, too cold, needs more milk, needs more sugar), and whispering to me.

Ex said his mom hates RT. RT whispered that she hates ex's mother. Ex whispered that they are going on a honeymoon to try to find a place to live down south somewhere where it's cheaper than Long Island. RT said that ex wants to live here on Long Island. I'm not sure what the true story is, and really don't care, but if I got a vote it would be for for far away!

RT also told me that ex does NOT want to marry her, and that he wants to just live as friends, but he is marrying her so she can get a green card so she can stay in this country and get a job. I can't believe he told her that. How romantic.

Then they both came in and sat down, and ex said that RT is going to bone up on her English so she can get a job as an accountant, and is going to take an accounting class online, but RT said she thinks the only kind of job she can get would be as a cleaning lady. Not sure she'll be able to support him on a cleaning lady's salary, but I'm sure ex will encourage her to try.

It was SO friggin strange. It was hard not to burst out laughing. And very very hard to refrain from telling her that her "Russian diamond" wedding ring is set with man made stones. I will be very grateful if they find a nice inexpensive place to live somewhere far far away.