I think the idea of tracking the positives is a good one. Because you will note the progression towards....rather than the movement away. As for Cainercast...I am subject to the same hooha. The cosmic crap bag.
Cainer would be the first to say all is subject to change according to action and will. Here's the thing, reading this stuff just makes us nuts. If it is good, do you remember the forecast and focus on it as long as you do if it is negative? When it does not apply at all, do you promptly put it away and forget about it? The readings work because WE READ INTO THEM...
I have been obsessed by this stuff, especially since h has moved out. IT IS THE ALLTIME CHEESELESS TUNNEL and does NOT offer a satisfying substitute for real connection. Your h is still there. Spend time and focus on how you want to DB and change the little things that happen between you.
Maybe we could together wean ourselves from the horoscope stuff...for me it is a real problem....cause I read WAY TOO much about Uranus in Pisces and how that will adversely affect everything in my homelife with H. Well heck there are a ton of Pisces men out there....are they ALL LEAVING THEIR WIVES?
And while we are at it, why stop at reading sun sign, read rising and heck...Jupiter sign is essential for understanding your luck cycle....point is..how are we going to focus our energy. Spending all this time to change and develop ourselves into confident wildy attractive beings...creatures like no other...only to read some generalized forecast and allow it to define our options?
Anyway, I think it is time we work on trusting ourselves, knowing our own minds and acting with confidence and living with intention. When I read about the entire exchange you had with your h about taking the day off to cycle, it reminded me of the kind of communication that I have with my h. It makes us both nuts. I am learning to first figure out what I want and then operate from there. My h hates when I contort myself to try to figure out and FIX things to work for him. I am learning.
ANyway...hope this ramble has meant SOMETHING for you. I, of course, wish you the very best and see many many positives in your situation that would and do have many of us feeling hopeful for your future.
Maya, you have more than meant something. Thank you. Of course I don't take the horoscope seriously, but subconsciously it affects me I guess because I find myself going back. Time to stop, you're right.
I'm going to take your and psluke's suggestion and post positives.
H came home tonight late. We didn't get to go bike riding. Instead of quizzing him like I usually would have, I showed him symphathy. Oh, poor H, you look tired. Let me get you something to drink, some aspirin, you go sit and relax. He smiled and looked at me. Said my eyes look beautiful. Stood in the doorway watching me do dishes.
Gave me a hug, and another, and then said that my technique during ML the other night (fourth mention of this by him) was fantastic. He has been thinking about it all day. (Three days later) Smiled at me very softly and gently.
I said I would be glad to give him more of the same tonight if he needs to relax. He said definitely. YAY. He's looking forward to intimacy with me.
Who was that crazy lady posting no babysteps on my thread? I think they took my name and pretended to be me.
just wanted to say Hi, Rottz. I think I'm the queen of poor timing as my previous post came out so long after dazed list it probably made no sense...don't know how that happens, the other posts werent there when I typed, we must all be on at the same time.
Hey, guess what? I feel better reading that I'm not the only person who gets nervous reading horoscopes. I can still give you a run for your money in the queen of crazy contest....I've been known to hide the newspaper so H can't read his if I interpret it as leaning towards the OW...I'm not even sure what sign she is, but I've even been known to hide the paper if it looks like there might be something positive in what might be her sign...oh yeah, how's that for crazy? Tell me about Cainer cast? where do you find that? Or don't tell me, maybe I shouldnt know!
Seriously though, I see so many indications of warmth and caring from your H....It really looks to me like theres a lot there and a lot of "thawing" going on. I know it's so scary and hard to see in our own sitchs so many times.
hi there - what incredible dbing, not quizzing, being there for him, being approachable. and what great feedback from H, compliments etc. i'm so envious but good for you. looking forward to your daily positives - it always helps to read how everyone else is doing well have a great easter. hugs, slowly
Quote: I can still give you a run for your money in the queen of crazy contest....I've been known to hide the newspaper so H can't read his if I interpret it as leaning towards the OW...I'm not even sure what sign she is, but I've even been known to hide the paper if it looks like there might be something positive in what might be her sign...oh yeah, how's that for crazy?
Well, I must be crazy, too, then...group hug for the crazy ladies!!! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
H and I stayed up late watching television again. He was so sweet, we cuddled on the couch, he woke me up a few times when I was dozing.
Went to bed and snuggled in with him. Woke up early for the ML I promised him, very long time. He definitely appreciated it. Held me during and after, which is a babystep. YAY! Gave me kisses on my forehead and face last night and after ML this morning. Snuggling kept us in bed as he hit the snooze repeatedly, and I wasn't about to complain. I was feeling pretty sick, and he wanted me to stay in bed, said I looked snuggly and he would get his own food ready for the day. I didn't want to, however. I told him that I felt sick, but really liked getting his food ready for him and would rather do that. He looked upset, he wanted to take care of me, but I was happier to take care of him. He's been working so hard lately, he deserves the extra attention.
Great hug goodbye, he seemed to be in a very good mood. Again, turned his phone on in front of me (so I knew that he hadn't gotten any voice mails). It's like he does these little things for me in return for the nice things I do for him.
Lots of positives here, not going to focus on negatives, which are all in my head.
but good for you. looking forward to your daily positives - it always helps to read how everyone else is doing well 
