She's gone. Living in the now.

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant, well clearly your friends have designs on getting you and this lady together! For me, I didn't want to be 'married and dating' but many on this forum do choose to date before D is finalised.

Generally, the advice seems to be - wait until a year after any D is final before you consider dating. For me, we have been S two years in a couple of weeks and our D was final last month. I'm just considering possibly going out with someone from work (if asked!) who seems like he may be interested in me.

XH and me met and started dating just over a year after he and his XW1 had S. In hindsight I wouldn't do that again as things do take a good while (longer than a year for sure) to resolve.

I actually think a little dating may do no harm to your sitch...the more W sees you moving on the better. However, if you haven't decided to close the door on your M, my concern is more for the person you date and the possible hurt for them (and for you..)

All of this said - if you decide to go then good luck to you. I also see no problems with going out for a friendly drink with someone of the opposite gender.

Hope this helps my friend