I see what you're saying. No, I don't know either! I'm having the kids for two weeks in a couple of weeks time, and we're going away for a few days. I think that is when it will hit her somewhat, not having the kids. She hasn't booked anything for them, so, it'll be the only real break they get. As I say, I am effectively 'NC' except for the kids.
Her car is due a MOT and taxing in July/August and I know that she isn't confident about that. Last year, I still did it all (yep, the nice guy trick doesn't work), but this year it'll be a simple 'no' - not nasty or anything just a no.
I haven't looked at any other concepts, but have seen some other websites which advocate the same as DB or showering the other spouse with gifts. I think we all know that doesn't work.
I don't know why my W hasn't gone down the D route. She had a solicitor until last August when she wanted a separation agreement, but she pulled that on her own. She was able to start proceedings in April, but hasn't done anything about it. As with most LBS's on here, the notions of what our spouses have going on in their head is probably totally different to what is actually going on.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
