In the UK - PT 18 'Dark O'Clock'

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It is good to reflect and ponder on the situation as long as it isn't an attempt to determine THE magic thing you could do to fix the situation.

Most of what you wrote is great. One thing that struck me was W KNOWS how much you love and desire her. This seems completely opposed to the DB process.She is supposed to know that you lovED her but not at present.I admit I have not been able to fully go down that road but my situation is a bit different to yours.

Now that ye are separated I would imagine that her knowing you love her could prolong the situation IMO. You have shown her in many ways that you have moved forward. That is good. That is strong. But all that is undermined if she feels you still love her. She needs to doubt that or better still believe the opposite. I don't know how you can specifically do that, more than you are already doing.

On the net, on TV and in real life there are many stories of other concepts that have brought couples back together. DB says to do what works and experiment. Judging by the interactions you write about, IMOyyour best path is to stick to what you are doing. I don't think making advances will help you.

Not related directly but I wondered why you think W has not gone down the divorce route?