It seems that I have a couple of good days where I feel like I'm not concerned about her or what she's doing and then something like last night happens and sets me back
I just had one of those moments a few days ago. I found something among S preschool artwork with that loser's name on it in her handwriting. I lit into her in texts, she called crying 10-15 minutes later saying she's "sorry" (rather than remorseful or asking for forgiveness) and somehow it turned into me thinking she wanted back in and her talking complete unintelligible nonsense in response. I ended up being angrier for 2 days than I've ever been in my life.
I'm back on track now, but those were two horrible days. It's so hard to keep your emotions out ALL THE TIME. I had done pretty well for weeks, but one moment got my blood boiling and it took ages to calm down.
Good luck to you. Sounds like you're confident in where you are right now.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.