Has she ever displayed drastic mood swings in the past?
I want you to understand how important it is that you not just sit there and allow her to scream and yell at you. It is an outward show of her disrespect for you. Shouting back at her is not the answer, either. What have you previously done when she would verbally vomit on you?
There is a place and a time to show patience and compassion for someone who may be reacting to a mental or physical problem. However, I find in many cases, these women know who can they scream at.......and who they can't. Know what I mean? If they get away with verbally attacking someone, they will do it again. If there is a consequence, they stop.
I suggest you study the link on boundaries. Don't jump into making any statements to her until you fully understand the principle and technique of setting boundaries.
Women are made in such a way that they have to feel respect for their H's before they can feel desire. Some women go for years having sex and going through the motions of a MR. However, there are little signs (or maybe big ones) that she's lost some respect for her H. It is seen in her attitude, the way she talks to him, her facial expressions (eye rolling, etc.), how she speaks about him to others, and how she treats him in front of his children. If there are signs of disrespect, I guarantee you she has lost her desire for you. Even if she has a high sex drive and wants it every night........her desire for "you" is not there.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
