It was from your post about what women should know about men....one of them was "don't stroke the bottle if you don't want to let the genie out".....I loved it.... generally, "stroking the bottle" will bring out the genie, I just want him to come out to play before the bottle gets stroked more often.....maybe those belly dancing lessons nitaf mentioned would be a good idea for lots of reasons, you think?
Ahhh, you are talking about the art of the tease. Something I used to be very good at. Now, H doesn't notice. Sounds like a challenge to me. Maybe H should be noticing and it's about time he begins to...
I think the first thing you have to do is be adventurous. Give your man something to fantasize about. If before, your whole sex life consisted of nothing but missionary position after the lights went out, how is he going to see you as his fantasy girl? Men (and women) need help to fantasize.
Everyone knows the most important sexual organ in the body is the brain, right?
How about giving him a massage. This is one I'm about to try, haven't done for a while. Start off with a real massage, get him to relax. Don't cut it short. I think one thing most girls do is see men as permanent bottle rockets. Just because they CAN finish in seconds doesn't mean they want to. Massage him good and long. Get the candles going, make sure the bedroom is clean and fresh. It's not just women that like scents. Men are probably the largest fans of beauty. After all, they spend their lives chasing it, right? Maybe put some flowers out.
After he is laying there almost asleep, bring out your craft store box. That's right. You do have a toolchest, don't you? Scraps of silk, microfiber, soft terry cloth, feathers. A bit of ice water and some hot tea by the bedside. A bottle of honey, some wintergreen life savers or altoids.
Finish massaging him now using your toolbox. Perhaps a blindfold will help.
Now, you have given him something to fantasize about.
NOW you can tease him. Now you can wear that thong around the house, make subtle suggestions and have them be understood. Get his BRAIN going and going. When he is thinking about you all day long, he will come home rearing to go. First, get him to see you as a sex object. Next, have a plan (this is where reading books comes from-get some good ideas) so that when he IS ready to go, you have something new and exciting to try. THEN you will be getting the genie hopping out of the bottle at a minute's notice.
My H is very LD. He could go months with no issues. And yet, this works on him. It's a lot of work, but I am HD and it's worth it to me.
Quote: how about the many ways to delay a man's O?
A short list: did you remember to take out the trash?; Honey, the IRS called again today; My god man, you smell terrible; do those home pregnancy tests give false positives sometimes?; hurry up, Survivor is coming on!; smell me here, did I get all of junior's throw up cleaned off?
Got my cainercast today, I am not liking these at all... they're spooky and don't sound too promising for me. They consistently sound like I am going to fail, and I am not liking this idea. Anyone have a different interpretation for me.
You are rather hoping that, if you leave someone or something alone, your problem will sort itself out. It will do. You are right. What you can't be so sure of though, is that it will sort itself out in quite the way you want. There's no guarantee that you will be able to influence the outcome even if you try with all your might but at least you will then know that you have made every possible effort. And, as you definitely can't make things worse, you may as well do what you can to make them better.
Quote: Anyone have a different interpretation for me
What the hay, I'll give it a go...
Quote: if you leave someone or something alone, your problem will sort itself out.
"if you let up on your efforts, if you make your selfish interests the priority instead of your R,..."
Quote: no guarantee that you will be able to influence the outcome even if you try with all your might but at least you will then know that you have made every possible effort
"we should all know there are no guarantees in life, very few things will always work with certainty,... all we can do is try, we should always try to do what we can, we are better people when we give our best instead of just coasting with what will just get by..."
Quote: as you definitely can't make things worse, you may as well do what you can to make them better.
When we give our best, with our best intentions, and being sure that we are acting with good will towards others instead of self interest, there's probably almost no chance of us making things worse.
My H's cainercasts and mine combined have me freaked out.
His for the past two days...
Tuesday, 6th April 2004 You need to be all that you have the potential to be. And you also need to be brave. Do you have nerves of steel? You may be about to find out! What began as a light, inspired and exciting undertaking has developed into a tense scenario which is stretching confidence and optimism to the limit. The Full Moon in your sign has obliged you to look at vital issues. It now suggests that you had better look to your highest priority; honour that at all costs and ignore absolutely everything (and everyone) else for the time being.
Monday, 5th April 2004 The Full Moon in your sign suggests that something has to be broken down into pieces and put back together again. Specifically, it implies the need for you to look at an obligation or a responsibility. You have had about as much as you can take. You have communicated that point and caused a small amount of chaos in the process. Now you need to say and do something constructive. You fear that little will be different when you have finished trying. Previous attempts have not worked well. But this time, it really can be different.
Of course, my sick mind immediately thinks "light undertaking" as his flirtation with OW. And that she should be the priority. I'm really sick, aren't I? H has given me absolutely no indication at all that he is not making me a priority right now.
Then, mine for the past two days basically say I will fail at whatever I am trying to accomplish. Sigh... I'm not down, honestly. It's just a horoscope.
I was also thinking it could mean my weight loss efforts, or job search, or whatever. Why does it have to be about H and I?
Whatever, I had a great morning with H, am really busy at work (for a change) and am about to head out on my bike ride. H was happy and thanked me THREE times yesterday for waking him up for ML Monday a.m. He thanked me for dinner, for cleaning after I got home from school, and again this morning for breakfast. ("I really do like having breakfast. It makes my day. Thank you again for making me breakfast...") Three hugs, no kisses, but happy smiles are good also.
Can do with more ideas. 
Sounds like a challenge to me. Maybe H should be noticing and it's about time he begins to...
