You are quite right I do want her back but I want her to change. However she is so stubborn that she will most likely not. I would be grateful to understand what makes a WW (not sure she is WW or WAW) change their stance. It has to come from inside but, as I say, I really struggle to see her changing.....
Stubborn pride is something that WW's tend to have in common. That is why I believe it is so important for her to experience humility. I don't think you will see much heart felt changes, until you see humbleness in your W. Once that old stubborn pride crashes, and she feels the remorse and shows humility in her attitude, speech, behavior, & action.........then the MR's chances of healing shoots to the sky!
As long as everything basically goes the WW's way..........and nothing causes her fantasies to crumble, then the chances of her changing her mindset is not so good. I believe they have to lose something, due to their decision to end the M. I believe their should be consequences in life. A WW may leave her H b/c she no longer wants to be his W.........however, she still expects wifely privileges. She wants the H to be available whenever she needs something. She thinks she should still call all the shots on everything about the kids. She thinks the H should be grateful she'd let him be her friend. In everything.........no matter what it is, she looks to see what's in it for her.
There are some threads about the WW, what distinguishes them from the WAW (IMHO), and the process of them coming out of the wayward mindset. In your own description of your W, I would say she's definitely wayward.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
