Sorry I missed your bat signal. I do want to respond to a couple of things.

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Right now she does not think a compromise is needed. She keeps saying for her to come back I could not do anything to interfere with her work/career.


This should enlighten you and the counselor to the type of woman you are dealing with. Let me translate into the WW version of what she was saying. "I do not think a compromise is needed from me. I intend to return on my own terms, and will proceed at calling all the shots".

The goal is not to just get her back into the house again. Many LBS's seem focused on that one aspect, instead of the whole picture with all the troubled issues. If the couple are living in separate places, that is the best time for him to state his boundaries about her coming back, and to require that both of them attend (and stick it out) MC to resolve the critical issues at hand. If she returns under her WW terms, he's basically had it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!