Pathway Change

[RSG]

I know, it's just painful, but to reconcile I need to moved forward, she is remorseful and is ashamed by her own behaviour!

Each day is a challenge, but at least I have a chance to work on my M.

Great attitude. Two things: 1: When I blew up at WW the other day, I asked if she were remorseful about 4 different ways. The closest I got to "will you forgive me" is you have every right to be upset, and I'm sorry for how things turned out. Nearly worthless statements. Fog still strong.
2: If and when I ever get the chance to piece my marriage back together, one thing that would kill any chance is if she goes into details of what she did. I know enough. Adultery is the worst thing you can do against a person and family. If she is genuinely remorseful, knows how much she hurt you and the family, and is asking forgiveness, you have to respect that if you want to move forward. One of the reasons, so far, WW is scared to do anything towards coming back is the fear that every argument would end with me getting livid and using A as a weapon. Looking backwards won't help, it will only hurt you both.

Keep going!! If you love her and want to rebuild your marriage, you can do it!