Ahhh, you are talking about the art of the tease. Something I used to be very good at. Now, H doesn't notice. Sounds like a challenge to me. Maybe H should be noticing and it's about time he begins to...
I think the first thing you have to do is be adventurous. Give your man something to fantasize about. If before, your whole sex life consisted of nothing but missionary position after the lights went out, how is he going to see you as his fantasy girl? Men (and women) need help to fantasize.
Everyone knows the most important sexual organ in the body is the brain, right?
How about giving him a massage. This is one I'm about to try, haven't done for a while. Start off with a real massage, get him to relax. Don't cut it short. I think one thing most girls do is see men as permanent bottle rockets. Just because they CAN finish in seconds doesn't mean they want to. Massage him good and long. Get the candles going, make sure the bedroom is clean and fresh. It's not just women that like scents. Men are probably the largest fans of beauty. After all, they spend their lives chasing it, right? Maybe put some flowers out.
After he is laying there almost asleep, bring out your craft store box. That's right. You do have a toolchest, don't you? Scraps of silk, microfiber, soft terry cloth, feathers. A bit of ice water and some hot tea by the bedside. A bottle of honey, some wintergreen life savers or altoids.
Finish massaging him now using your toolbox. Perhaps a blindfold will help.
Now, you have given him something to fantasize about.
NOW you can tease him. Now you can wear that thong around the house, make subtle suggestions and have them be understood. Get his BRAIN going and going. When he is thinking about you all day long, he will come home rearing to go. First, get him to see you as a sex object. Next, have a plan (this is where reading books comes from-get some good ideas) so that when he IS ready to go, you have something new and exciting to try. THEN you will be getting the genie hopping out of the bottle at a minute's notice.
My H is very LD. He could go months with no issues. And yet, this works on him. It's a lot of work, but I am HD and it's worth it to me.
Sounds like a challenge to me. Maybe H should be noticing and it's about time he begins to...
