"Good People" can be judged by the behavior and wouldn't you agree a "good person" would change their behavior if it was hurting their spouse?
What would you do if your weren't afraid?
Your wife might get upset if you ask her to delete the snapchat app, step back from social media and|or quit that job ====> HOWEVER, your marriage can survive her being angry. Her anger is a much smaller risk to your marriage than her continuing to work with OM and continuing her stupid phone apps that are hurtful and disrespectful in light of her recent "mistake".
You're a good husband >>> if she asked you delete chitchat would it bother you?
All that being said, I'm NOT saying your wife is an awful person but these short-lived little mistakes can blow up into a new way of life and you'll never see the "good wife" you knew and loved ever again. The habits and practices in your marriage previous to her affair haven't changed ---> they've actually gotten worse.
"Piecing" isn't just about staying married and not upsetting your spouse. It's about making your marriage better or, more precisely, building a new marriage from the ground up. At some point YOUR BOUNDARY (what it's gonna take to keep you interested in repairing and, ultimately continuing in this relationship) must include that things need to be better....extraordinary even.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
