Hi MS, I am sorry to hear about how mean your H is. I like how strong you're sounding and how detached you are from your H.
Won't it be fun though when your H starts treating the OW the way he has treated you? The OW has seen his true colours, just that his meanness want directed at her. Like you said maybe she really can be on top of things but either way, you would have waltzed out of their drama.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.