Also, I definitely feel like she wants to rug sweep, she still gets very defensive when I bring stuff up, even the MC noticed it when I asked W a question in counseling, the MC told her I asked the question very softly and W immediately got defensive.
This stuck out to me. Not rug sweeping an A in my sitch, but more like rug sweeping the entire marriage. If I bring anything up, I'm a monster. If I just give in to the "the whole marriage was a bad idea let's just part peacefully" thing... well that is no good either.
Following your story. Keep hanging on for the ride.
Me: 34, W: 39 T: 10y, M: 8y D 4, D 6 2nd M for both BD: 4/22 status: separate beds, GAL, hopeful
