Almost 10 weeks since she said she didnt love me

[EDF]

I pull back and she pursues....

Then she acts all nice and tonight she kissed me.

Someone please explain this to me.

I cant drop my guard, last time i did she went cold turkey and wanted to move out again.

I don't have any more insight than you do... Finding the pursuit/distancing dance just as confusing as you even though it's an expected part of the script.

I suspect a big part of it is just that the WW is generally even more messed up emotionally than we are. And while we here slowly gain the benefit of introspection, increased detachment and great advice, the WW just keeps falling back to their same short-sighted patterns. No introspection or personal growth needed since everything wrong in their life is someone else's fault.