14 days of sheer hell - to get to heaven

[Rose888]

I agree with Sotto. There is a lot of meat in Sandi's post, and it doesn't sound like you are really hearing what she is saying or digging deep into yourself.

You give your wife a lot of power and control over you. If being in her presence wipes out your connection to God for hours after you've left her, you clearly haven't figured out how to detach and be your own person.

Detachment isn't just for unhealthy relationships. Learning to self-validate instead of getting your validation from your partner is a critical skill for having a healthy relationship. It's actually harder to learn on your own than in a relationship.

You seem to think that all your flaws and work are in the past, and that you can waltz into a healthy relationship with a new woman.

From what you've shared on the board, that seems unlikely.