I agree with Painter. I always read your thread, but rarely comment because I feel unqualified to give advice.

I am very impressed with how you are handling yourself.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16