Being there to help v going dark:balance

[Surfer]

I am trying not to contact my WAW and GAL. However I am desperately missing the kids. Presumably it's okay to call when I miss them provided I just speak directly to them and don't engage in conversation with the WAW - and only engage with her when she raises something with me? Got to be careful, I am missing 'company' but I don't want to engage inappropriately - emailing, calling etc.