Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 2

[PsySara]

SH,
It's funny you mention shelving the talks for now because I was thinking the same thing. Part of me feels like I am appearing to soft and like I am relaxing my boundaries. Tonight I was (honestly) less available with my time on the phone as I am packing the last of my stuff before me and the kids fly home tomorrow. YAY!!! WH appears to want me to act as his counselor but not have to really give anything back in return. He soooooo needs an IC but absolutely refuses to even consider it, so I am stopping that cheese less tunnel for now.

Jksd,
I was starting to get into depressive thinking again and had to re-evaluate my goals, or rather remember them. I spent today saying good bye to friends and colleagues so was able to focus more on being in the moment then mulling over this smoking ruin of my marriage. My DB coach states it sounds like WH is going through an early mid life crises. he has an affair with someone 14 years younger, he buys two cars and three motorcycles during this time and then he talks about moving away permanently so he can "eat at restaurants, explore new cities blah blah blah." He has always had a problem with prioritizing but this had reached ridiculous levels lately.

Tomorrow I fly to my new home and start unpacking and getting this sorted. The two older kids will start summer camp on Monday and I will be doing some interviews for a nanny for the baby this week. WH will be coming in for a week on Monday and then after a week he will be gone for 3 weeks. I'll be updating here throughout the week. For now I am going to shower then collapse to bed.