RSG I know it [censored]!! I've been there and its a terrible place to be. Don't let the anger consume your thoughts. You can't control how you feel, but you can control how you react right? Every situation is different. My situation has become an interesting one because I am having to have a lot more patience than I realized I had. Now here come the 2x4! LOL You need to detach!!!! It is clear as day that everything you do is for her and that anything she does gets reaction out of you, good or bad. The problem with that is that even though you think you are living your life and moving forward, you really aren't. What are you going to do when she is gone? What are you going to do if there is no W and it's just you and S? I know these are tough questions, but you need to realize that you need to be happy for you. I think one of the things all LBH have in common is that they became very co-dependent on their spouses. That is why detaching is so difficult, but so critical.
Hang in there!
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it