Exactly, nitaf! Or even if for some reason H mentioned any of your sitch and the friend was negative- the truth is that your R is the dynamic between you and H only- other people can say whatever junk they want, but they don't have the control in what happens, it's what you do that matters! Making your life, rather than letting it 'happen' to you from others/things. My H has had friends who advised him junk- yes I felt irritated, but did I let that stop anything- instead took myself from a separation, straight to piecing! I had positive things to say to H when the junk came up. Always a better positive to every perceived negative- and remember this is your sitch, so you have great influence over how it goes!!
Master the self-fulfilling prophecy.. Act 'as if' it's going to happen and make it be!!
