Thank you for the F-D wishes ... and all the comments everyone. Just thought I would pop on here and journal a bit ... seems the days turn to weeks very quickly.
We have set the mediation date ... Aug2, for those who have been keeping score this is the ... what 4th attempt to close, however this will be the first time we have had the 2 hour meeting to hopefully agree on everything. As MLC clock work goes W picked a fight shortly after first over sunscreen .. then over scheduling, more to remind herself what a horrible man I am and to justify going through with the process, I did not return fire at all ... like a seasoned warrior the spew just is not as toxic as it once was.
So ... Fathers Day weekend, I had S on Saturday, STBX did offer to switch days, however I really did not want to swtich up the schedule and besides ... everyday I have S is Fathers Day enough for me. I have been working on the Harley the past few weeks, and I mounted a second seat, pegs, and fabricated a sissy-bar with a back pad. That Saturday it was all set and ready to go so I tossed S a helmet and off we went for a beach ride. At first he was a bit timid ... holding tightly. we stopped off for lunch and started our return trip. I noticed 2 separate groups of girls pointing and laughing .. yes .. at Us. I could not figure out why till I caught in the mirror .. S flapping his arms like he was a bird ... the faster I went the faster he flapped ... had me laughing so hard. We got home and S was on cloud 9, said that was the funnest thing ever and has been on me since to take him to summer camp on it. After I grilled some steaks ... sat outside and just enjoyed the amazing weather we are blessed with.
July for me is GAL on steroids. On the 1st S and I are taking a road trip back home to Nebraska, for the 4th. will be great to go out fishing and he gets to light fireworks (Out here in Cali we don't even get sparklers) I plan on hitting some spots along the way, and doing the Grand Canyon on the way back. Then I am here for a week ... and off to China for work for 10 days. I am looking forward to that trip and experience. After I get back home .. about another week and the Mediation is set to take place.
The personal life stuff has been nice, still spending time with this girl I have been seeing, she is fun, happy, honest and we enjoy our time together. I am still healing and learning to swim again if you will .. but she has been great, understands a bit of what I have been through though I do not share much ... who wants to hear about the MLC destruction stuff anyways, besides whats past is past.
I do hope this finds you all well ... I still pop in to read and keep up, I still feel the responsibility to continue to keep posting and updating .. just not as often. For some reason I still think W will come out of it, I just do not know if there will ever be a R, the damage done is extensive and I have not taken inventory of where I am with all that, not sure I would want to do the work required at this point just for the fact I am doing pretty well on my own and have been for some time. I have plans of buying a home next year, and filling my life with upgrading that ... leaving something behind for S.
Ok .. enough rambling ... my journey and growth call .. hope you all well God Bless.
thx for the update Cali xoxoxo as always good to hear from you. I feel like you're in a solid place, and you've certainly earned this peace of mind. xoxoxoxo happy belated father's day
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Hey Cali, great to read your update, its always good to hear how you are going along.
I love your quote - everyday you have your s is Fathers Day, awwwww, that is adorable. You are a great dad and role model.
Have a great trip and safe travels for China. Good luck with mediation, sounds like w is still on her quest for destruction, but you are well know for the cool calm and collected approach nowadays.
As always, you inspire me to keep moving forward and give me faith that Happy Days are ahead.
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
I have been reading your situation in the past hour and I think that you are doing a great job, you seem to be a very stable and patient man just like Irish. I have been in the MLC mess for only 7 months and I don't know how it will look like after 3 years, hopefully we will reconcile. I want to ask you about your wife's childhood, which seems to be affecting most MLCers here and in particular I would like to know if her parents divorced before she turned 15. How that played out and if there is any history of physical or sexual abuse during her childhood.
Cali comes by periodically. You may want to do a search of his name and read his previous threads.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Did you locate his first two threads over in Newcomers? They might shed some light on the subject for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
