@bigybiz - sorry I also wanted to say that your wifes journey has just started, and much like in your situation we did MC in hope of fixing our situation, and quite honestly it's to early for counseling, and a waste of time. I can only speak for our situation, but it became very obvious my wife was only doing it to say she's trying. i'm not saying counseling is a bad thing, but for her I say it's to early, but foe you, IC will help you immensely to get your head straight. it takes about three months before you get through the shock of "what the hell happened!" you'll begin to feel better, and read, read, READ! the more knowledge you have of this crap, the better it'll be for you to deal with "HER PROBLEM"
