I've been sitting on the side line now for 3 years, getting on with my life, and just leaving God to work on my spouse. Buckle-up bigybiz and try to make best of the quiet before the storm, because i'm sorry to say it will get worse before it gets better, and confusing as all hell. It will become the ride through hell only the strong and brave can endure. Heed the advice you get from these forums, and the best you can do is keeo reminding yourself, it's not you it's her problem to figure out, and DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONAL! the posting i found extremely helpful for me to understand what the hell is happening are from Job, Cadet, Dellboy, Cyrena, and i got A LOT of valuable information from AmyC here's a link to Musing from AmyC she does a great job describing what she went through as an MLCer http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2253741&page=8
