Question for people, does it matter who arrange the MC, I would like my W to as I feel that show commitment, is this right or wrong?
If you are the one choosing, you need to find one that specializes in healing from an affair.
I think the worst would be for your W to find a female counselor who is sympathetic to W having an A. You know, the type that tells you to do whatever makes you happy.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!