Ifm, thanks for checking on my thread. I understand how you are feeling, we still want the emotional and physical closeness even when they are obsessed with OM. The week W waited for OM's flat to be ready was the strangest of my life. Long hugs, kisses and deep chats at all hours. Looking back you realize that there is a mixture of conscience easing, affection, remorse and keeping you in place. You know that you're going to have to decide what works for you and set some boundaries in place.You can't let her think she can do whatever she wants and you're ok with it. I learnt that the hard way. I really hope it works out for you, keep up with the GAL and have a great weekend.