Thank you LFM, I have realised that what has happened to me is not as a result of anything that i did in the MR, per se. It was the person that came into the R in the first place that was broken.

I am learning to forgive the sinner that i was, and my sins. I never took the right action because it "felt" right in my heart, but still sat uneasy in my soul.

But my tale is somewhat different as I was wayward once, with my XGF, so I am able to comprehend my WWs actions better than most.

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.