Building on what doodler says, you need to change your actions.
Disregard the mediation, insanely difficult. But you need to take a step back, take all of your emotions out of what is happening and just look at it, at face value.
I learnt a great phrase... Sometimes when you think that everything is falling apart around you, it is actually just falling into place.
Also, your WAW does not care about you, or your childrens feelings. You need to do the same for her feelings.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
