You're welcome Sage. I'm glad I could give back to you, who has given me so much.
Guys, I'm scared and need opinions.
My H's friend who is going through D, and whom through I have been able to find out what H thinks about M and Rs and other stuff in general, was with H today. (They work together.)
H called me and said he is thinking of telling his friend about our problems. I am terrified at this thought. Until now, H has kept it secret and we have been dealing with it the best way I know how.
I am scared that if he talks to this friend, who is angry and hurt and disallusioned with love and marriage, his friend will counsel him to just give up and move on. He's known this guy for 25+ years and they used to hang out together. It's likely he will try to get him to go out with him on the town and tomcat around, as his friend is just now trying to get over his WAW by dating.
I told H not to tell him anything until we had a chance to talk.
What do I do? I don't want to control H, but I don't want him talking to this guy about our troubles. I feel our troubles, which have been getting better, are private. I feel that if he talks to his friend, it will just draw us further apart and possibly be the beginning of the end of our M. H was the one who asked me to keep it private before.
I am terrified and scared and horribly upset by the prospect of him telling this guy.
