I replied.

"Keeping your affair partner as a friend is not an inconvenience, it's crap.

If you're willing to let go of me in order to keep your affair partner in your life, it's your loss."


Tried to keep it short as possible... trying to get my communications shorter in general as part of DBing, but I wanted to send a direct firm response here. Being direct and unequivocal is kind of a 180 for me.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11