Losing control, I need to let go (2)

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OK KyleR, there is a reason I don't post on newbies sitches - I'm still here! Yep, 14 months in and I'm still here. I remember being in exactly the same place as you and thinking the same things and I still haven't pulled the D cord yet.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I think about every now and again, but in the back of my mind, I don't want to be D'd, so I won't do it until the last piece of me decides that the future would look better without my W in it.

Now and again, I get depressed, get pissed and fire off a tirade on here. Normally, RD, Sotto and NDY come along and give me some 'coffee' to sober up and I'm back in the room! So, why am I still here? Well, I got married for a reason - love and that hasn't gone away yet. If it does, then I could see a day I'll file for a D, but that's not yet.

Go and read sandi2's posts on WAW/WW and see, really see, how her reactions changed from minute to minute. Search for her using the advanced box. Right now, she's giving advice to a WAW/WW who's come for help. It's a goldmine of information that us LBS's (mainly men) just don't see.

I've given two pieces of advice to newbies today - very unlike me, as I don't want to give that 'old man not letting go' look about my sitch. However, when I see guys saying they are going to D just for closure, I remember some of my posts from last summer and I realise that it'll be a mistake, likely expensive, and should only be used as a last resort.