To keep everyone from having to read the history, my W is still engaged in an affair, although it seems to have gone from EA to PA back to EA as she hasn't seen him outside of work in about 5 weeks. We still live in the same residence, and sleep in the same bed.
I've been pulling away from her as much as possible the past couple of weeks, and feel like I'm doing well, but still struggle a bit with the no snooping. Anyway, last night had a good night, I got home, we had dinner as a family, and then went to check on progress at the house we're building. We got back to the apartment we are currently living in and I decided I was going to the pool to try to swim some laps and get a different workout in as opposed to running or elliptical. My wife stayed at the apartment, but about 20 minutes appeared at the pool and decided she was going to swim with me. I was pleasantly surprised about this.
The rest of the evening was fine, she spent a fair amount of time on her phone texting, which has been the pattern for the past couple of weeks. I went to sleep, I think she did the same not to long after. In the middle of the night I was sleeping on my side facing her, she got up to use the bathroom and came back to bed and put her hand in mine. I probably should have pulled away, but it was nice to have that small physical connection, even if for just a few minutes.
I left this morning, said have a good day and walked out of the apartment. However, since leaving the apartment I've really struggled with not snooping, detaching my thoughts from her at work and it's honestly interferring with my ability to focus on my job today.
Not really looking for advice here, I know I'm going to have up and down days with this, just trying to do a better job of keeping my story updated.
Thanks!
_____________________ Me:44 W:44 Together 22 Married 21 S 19 D 17, 15, 15. 7 EA/PA suspected 3/30/2016 EA/PA confirmed 4/5/2016 ILYBINILWY 4/5/2016 WW asked for Divorce 5/8/2016 (WW has backtracked)
