My wife walked out 2

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Yes, you don't need to tell her you are purposely reducing trivial communications. That would probably get a bad reaction. Just let her mind wonder about it. This gets her thinking of you and not on others. Telling her doesn't let her mind wonder.

Thanks. You know I never thought of it that way!!

Well, a great day on all fronts so far! Took S to the new preschool, metup with WW at 7. He was happy, excited and friendly. Got to his classroom, picked out a puzzle and was on Cloud 9. This school has CC TV so we've watched him, and he's been very sweet. I'm ecstatic!

As for WW, she was a mess. Crying the entire time, leaving S for the first time in another preschool. We talked all morning about him and how good the place seems, and continue to text through the day. I will say, I've had huge revelations. One, deciding to leave a month ago was obviously strategic. Summer is the easiest time for her, as she'll see him 6 days a week and treat the weeknights he spends with me as "sleepovers with Dad." I can't text her even if I wanted to during the week while he's at camp, but she texts me at all times when I have him. She makes a big deal that she's "let" me have him so much and "does a good job keeping me in the loop" when she has him. Which brings me to point 2.

In August, her "selfless" acts of the Summer will have her thinking I should reciprocate. I'll be taking him to school daily, she'll pick him up and bring him to me so I can take him the next day. She'll probably have him F night-Su night and me the rest. As you may imagine, that's when I'll cut all updates and gradually reduce on Facetime to nil. When she asks I'll remind her "through no choice of my own, we're separated...." The power will be in my hands. The sight of her crying so hard today made me a little sad, but I did a good job of letting her go and simply offering words of encouragement like "he's going to do great" and the like. She's been happy watching him do so well on camera, but is still "really sad" he's gone. I knew she'd be in pain about this, and judging by her reaction when I threatened divorce after finding out about her waywardness, she's going to breakdown and put all the power in my hands. Eventually.

That's 6 weeks away. There's always a chance she wants to talk about us (ie divorce) but I don't want to anymore and will let her know that. It's painful, but time IS on my side. I've been given the blueprints, and that dim light at the end of the tunnel got a little brighter. I didn't take a step forward, but it's like I was pushed. To have access to S like she wants she can only go through one avenue. ME. No, that won't make her fall in love again, but it'll put the breaks on D talk. It'll make her care about her family again because she'll finally see us as a package deal, whereas now she's been able to compartmentalize being away from ME and being away from S.

If anyone sees a flaw in my logic, please chime in!!