Chapter 2, She moved out - I win! I think

[bigybiz]

Excellent question.

The most important thing is reconciliation go or no go. We have one issue that has stopped us from moving ahead on reconciliation.

She wants to travel to attend conferences, network, etc. That is a big issue for me. I said maybe and/or let's get help to figure it out.

We have had fleeting convos about reconciling and this issue keeps coming up and we don't resolve it. For me if we could resolve it great. If not that will determine the path.

Here are the details

Last year when she did she started an EA at a conference (that I was not happy about her going to). I suspected, snooped, I confronted her over and over (I thought it was a PA), she denied it. I then deceived and manipulated her to find out the truth.

To add to the issue, I contacted the OM told him to back off - he dropped her like a stone and she was mad.

So over the past 6 weeks this has come up. We don't have the communication, trust, honesty, etc to work this out. So it just lingers.

That is the most important issue to me.

What do you all think? Should this be the issue or is it too big? Should we find something else.