Thx Darknes. Was going to keep this for my big post once the D is settled, but am going to call you out again...
Once more, I respect your opinion and I would not be a healed, strong, confident God believing man if it was not for your help too.
But you said previously that you were non-religious, and never believed in D. This is the thing, we got married in a church because we understood that God ordained our M's. But then we forgot about God and went along our merry way, until BD, which was when we looked in the mirror and never liked what we saw.
Now we have an opportunity to accept infidelity as a part of M, or do the right thing, regardless if we feel differently. Taking the right action trumps doing what you feel is right.
So here's the call-out - D was created to end a marriage for unfaithfulness, if the partner is unrepentant - If you do not believe in the purpose of D, then you do not believe in the sanctity of M?
It sounds like you are saying that if your spouse is unfaithful, you have to divorce them for religious reasons. Is that what you are saying?
I have never heard of a religion that teaches that.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16