I don't think that they are capable either. They're in this spot, along with us as you rightly point out, because our feelings were and are hidden behind a life that was created to cover emotions.

I was going through the motions and never saw this coming, why, cos i was selfish. Selfish to my own needs, and so was/is she still.

But here's the thing, what my STBXWW felt for me was romantic attraction, not real love. She lost that romantic attraction for me about 3 years ago and waited for the right guy to "become" romantically attracted to.

I will never see remorse, because for her, it "feels" like she's done the right thing. Its not cheating, it's butterflies and holding hands and...

But thats her problem. I will look for love in the right place and that is not inside her!

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.