I agree with you all, and thank you for posting to confirm what I felt was the right way to go. By nature I am not someone who needs to control in R, I've been cheated on before, ended that R and moved on without trying to control the next. My biggest feeling of a need for control now is because of the freshness of the A, and the fact that she is still at the station with OM, but I've seen nothing that indicates they have any communication or are ever alone.

I will continue moving forward, I will continue lessening my verifying, I will continue being the best me... The one thing I will do in the next week or two is make sure that she very clearly understands my boundary of communication with OM and that is a deal breaker for me.


M - 9 1/2 years
5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA
10/31/16 - We sold house
01/10/18 - D Finalized