Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 2

[PsySara]

Lots of conversations between WH and I lately. He is still all over the place and I try to validate where I can without letting my frustration/anger/sadness leak through. In one minute he's talking about plans for our future home and in the next breath he is saying he does not feel attracted to me anymore, he doesn't want to touch me or look at me and he doesn't think I will be able to love him like he needs. The detachment was pretty spotty yesterday when he said the last few things. I am feeling utterly rejected. He says it has more to do with him than me but it still hurt like a sumb*tch when your husband says these things. I didn't let on how cutting these comments made me feel but it did keep me awake last night .

WH also says he's now considering jobs in other states besides the one I am moving to. Honestly I am just baffled by his vacillation. He actually has an interview next week at a hospital only a few miles from my soon-to-be home. He doesn't seem to know what he wants. He tells me he doesn't want to be near me but would rather come to my place here and there to spend time with the kids. I did tell him that option was not sustainable as it left me in limbo and I was only willing to wait so long to see some sort of movement on his end. Then in the next breath he tells me he would sell one of his prized vehicles so we could buy me a new car when I get settled into my new place. He tells me I am worth any sacrifice. I was like...WTF??? Good thing I am not using his minute-by-minute decisions/thoughts/mood swings to determine my future plans.