No I don't want a divorce but I also didn't want my M to end in the first place, none of this whole process has been about what I want.
I know my mind and I honestly don't think I can carry on with living my life without seeking closure first. If my W is sure it's over and she is happy to D then that, for me, is all the closure I need.
Kyle -
I get it. You want to feel in control. You can feel your life spinning away from you and you want to grab it by the balls and take back control.
Here's the thing. Filing for divorce is not the way to do that. You say yourself that it isnt what you want. So then why would you do it? Being divorced in and of itself wont change your attitude, your mindset, your emotions, your sense of a lack of control. As JksD says, only YOU can do that.
And the way to push forward with that process is to detach and GAL.
You are listening to every word your WAW is saying and believing it and REACTING to it. You have to stop and start listening to what you want. Take back your life through LIVING your life.
