Hi, Thanks for all your kind replies. Sorry about second similar post, I can't figure out how to delete it.
Edit -I deleted it for you - Cadet
I have decided to hold the grad party, thank you all. As I said, I am trying hard to distance but I am frustrated beyond words. He slept here last night (couch of course, his choice) and snuck out of the house, quiet as a mouse, this morning, while I pretended to sleep. This is his pattern (when he is home.) He doesn't say a word, and now, b/c I am trying to DB, neither do I.
Needless to say, this is driving me crazy. I feel I am going to burst. I have a meeting planned with a financial planner just to get my ducks in a row, in case he files. However, I have no information for the planner b/c he does all the finances, has all the passwords, does our taxes, etc. I know nothing, I'm ashamed to say. It's all on the computer - he has very little in the way of files. He brought the bill folder with him to work. In the last month he took a new job - I don't even know the name/location of the company. I am embarrassed to tell you that. He is silent.
Do I break my "no-contact" rule and talk to him about all this? Will I be pushing him further toward divorce if I bring it up? Should I ask him to move out? I want him to stop this craziness! However, we don't have the $ to afford an apartment for him and a house for me and I will have to sell the house if he divorce. I am crying every single day and wonder how long I can go on like this....thanks for your responses. H-52 W-50 S-18 S-17 S-14 Married 23 yrs, together for 27
