Very nicely said cbtdad - you can only protect your marriage with love. And if you respect, care about and love your W, then you will show it in your actions, regardless of any hurt that you are feeling. Love really conquers all...
If she wants out - let her go. You'll be better for it. If she wants in, then you fight, because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
