I think to make it work, you have to forgive yourself and your spouse, breakdown the why rather than focus on what happened. I want to build solid foundation for the future not, not one built on sand as you say!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...